TO BE, OR NOT TO BE?
I am torn on a certain subject and maybe you all can help me. I am in porn, yes! I am a very sexual girl and most will tell you that I just OOOOSE sex all the time. Now at the same time I am a real human being… I have normal conversations, I babysit, I sweat when I carry my groceries in… I do lots of normal stuff…. The conflict today is about my facebook and other forums I am on. I am registered under Charley Chase on all these places and I am confused on how I am suppose to respond to some people. I have fans that will write me and just be like ” HI, how are you? How is your day?” and that is fine… I also have fans that wright things like “Come to my house and suck every drop of cum out of my body.” Im sorry, but being in porn or not being in porn, that doesn’t seem like the right way to introduce yourself. My porn friends tell me to just go with it and that I have to realize I am a fantasy to most of these people… that they don’t look at me like a real human being, so to play to there fantasy. But I feel like in the movies I am all the fantasy they should need. The forums I have joined, I have done so in order to give my fans a more personal connection to me as a person.
I think it is totally out of line some of the things people wright me and I always tell them to stop being so vulgar, but am I supposed to be that fantasy girl all the time or can I just be myself when talking to my fans?
Hey by all means be yourself. I don’t want to hear about you making movies and having sex all the time I want to know the REAL you. From what I have read you are very down to earth and very kind hearted. I would enjoy just being able to sit down for dinner with you cause I know you would be a riot. I am currently overseas and you keep me smiling.
It is bad for people to write messages like that. It is a one way ticket to being deleted. Be yourself.. you are hot. If they don’t accept it or you as fans.. they are not real fans. People should exercise some degree of maturity in writing to stars that they do not even know. My response? I usually write ‘sure, meet me at 3.20 tomorrow at the corner of Broadway and 52nd.’
Just my opinion
VV
It horrible when people have no common sense or think before they write something it also pretty sad when people can’t seperate fantasy and reality you just need to ignore the people who write you nasty stuff like that they are a small percentage of people who don’t know how to act I know that you are a human being who can’t be that person 24/7 and you just need to be u sometimes
Whether you work in the Adult Entertainment Industry (or any Industry), you are entitled to -
A) your feelings
B) being treated respectfully
C) not being discrimated against
D) unnecessary compliments / comments
If people who write to you online can’t respect the fact you have a life outside of the Adult Entertainment Industry, then the problem exists with these people (and not you).
There’s a difference between commenting on a scene in porn AND comenting on those in the scene (if a person is aroused by porn? that’s fine, but do they need to share it with the world in such an obnoxious way? Absolutely not).
people forget that you are a person in real life and they think because of what you do then you like being talked to in that way, i think your co-workers are right with this job you have to take some of the bad with the good, maybe you should have a moderator help out to delete some of the vulgar stuff and that would just leave you with dealing with the good feedback. I don’t think you should seclude yourself because your fans, a lot more than you think, are interested in your thoughts and want to know what you have to go through in your life. love your work and hope you keep going!
Hi there, I think we fans should feel honored by you having all these means of communicating with us (your blog, your yahoo group), because we get to know the real you.
As you say, we fans are entitled to any fantasy we want with your pics or movies, but when addressing the real person, you are entitled to the same respect we should show to any other person, no matter what your job is.
Love and kisses.
Please keep in touch with us, and continue performing the way you do, and don’t pay attention to any idiot who thinks he can “fuck you” on line just because you are in Facebook.
Being any form of celebrity automatically makes you a focus of fantasy and desire. Unfortunately, a lot of people don’t know how to treat famous people like real human beings. And porn stars are already the focus of many people who think of them as objects of desire. That may be the price of celebrity. Your porn friends may be right in that it is part of the world you work in. Does it excuse the way some people react to or treat you? Absolutely not.
You may want to consider a second profile for fans who know how to treat people properly. Whatever you decide don’t let those idiots ruin your attitude or change the way you look at life.
A lot of people don’t think of people in porn as people, instead seeing them only for what they do on screen. You make those movies as a means of supporting yourself, but it is not who you are as a person and if the “fans” can’t figure that out then just block or delete them, because negativity like that is not needed in life. Have a wonderful day.
THAT is definitely out of line…. they need to show MUCH more respect.
pity they dont have the brains to understand that.
keep up the great work and be true to yourself.
xb
i wouldnt let what those who disrespect you say bother you since most of your fans understand that and want to get to know you and not just the fantasy.
i do and i would bet others also have more respect for you now,you can see from your response it shows that you are real in wanting to show your fans the whole you not just the fantasy.
Personally,I agree with you and don’t think it’s wrong to feel the way you do at all.The internet is a great thing but the bravery of being anonymous is often a huge problem.People say things they would never dream to say to peoples faces.
hi charley, its just pathetic when people cant treat women in the industry as normal everyday people…i know that you have a facebook page and i must thank you for accepting my request to be added to your profile…however there are people like you know that do not understand that you have feelings as well…that is why most celebrities have a fan page set up where fans intend to say whatever it is that is on there mind and then they also have a normal facebook page where they can keep in touch with old friends and family members, where they wouldnt be hassled with crude remarks…i understand that you want to connect with your fans and dont want to alienate them in any way but sometimes that is what beautiful famous girls who are known by many fans have to do sometimes…but i hope it does not that come down to that because i for one appreciate that you treat your profile as a way to connect to people as a regular everyday girl
Hey Charley!! All you have to do is be yourself. That’s what these forums are for. To give your fans your personal thought and feelings, so they can get to know you on a personal level. Just separate those who only think of you as a pornstar and those you want to talk to you as a real human being. You don’t have to respond to those vulgar people. They won’t be able to handle you anyways =). Your forums are great by the way. We get to hear about your personal sexual side and your humble real side. Keep up the good work. Much love.
Hey Charlie. I think is really nice of you to share your personal life with the people that admire you through this blog. I think you’re a person first and your work is just that. Something you do for a living. People should separate one thing from the other. The problems is that the internet is full of nasty people who just love to offend everyone. I really admire pornstars in general, you should really keep up doing what you want to and don’t pay attention to the vulgar comments. You are the fantasy girl only on film and people should accept it. By the way I think you should include a short bio on your page, with your filmography and hobbies, food you like, etc. Like those trivias of the actors in imdb. Take care
Being in your industry it’s very hard for those who are porn fanatics to differentiate “fantasy” from reality”. And unfortunately it’s always going to that way. It is a balance between being adult film star, Charley Chase, and (enter your real name here) but you can’t let the naysayer’s get to you. Can you be real with your fans?? Definitely!! Is it an uphill battle to do so? Yes. Because all they see is this fine piece of ass that has sex all the time and they would love to be the person doing all those dirty nasty sex acts with you. If your fans could get to know you at a personal level, then the tides would change and responses would be different. Until then you will always have douche bags that will be disrespectful and vulgar.
BTW….I love my fan sign
To some degree I’m gonna have to agree with your porn friends.
You are a fantasy to a lot of your fans. Your profiles on FaceBook, MySpace and other forums, to those fans are just an extension of that fantasy. They see it as a way of connecting with the girl in the movies and pictures. It’s a big thrill for a lot of them and sadly they can’t imagine seeing you any other way. They can’t picture you as a real person, walking past them in the aisle at the grocery store or sitting at a nearby table in a restaurant. They limit themselves to one aspect of your life, your job, and can’t appreciate you as a complete person. Their loss I guess.
For those people, I say let them be as they are. You don’t have to take the abuse, you can ask them to be more polite; but I wouldn’t worry about trying to change or enlighten them. I’d say it wasn’t worth the effort.
If a fan were to come up to you at a convention and say that kind of stuff or try to grab you inappropriately, how would you handle that? I imagine you’d tell them “no”, tell them to behave themselves and if they kept it up, have security escort them out. Why not do the same thing online? Tell them you don’t appreciate those kind of comments, ask them to refrain from making them, delete comments they post on your profile and if they get too unruly, block them. If you wanted, you could even go so far as to create a wall of shame blog entry with the rude things people have said, your response and let the community deal with them. When people see someone being rude like that, they often want to figuratively kick someone’s ass.
I think it’s nice that you want to make a connection with your fans. I imagine your fans appreciate the effort and many of them will be happy to respond in kind with appreciative words and well wishes. Some of them though will never see you as anything more than a porn star, an object, something to be lusted after. You take the bad with the good. There’s a downside to most everything in life. The trick is to not let it take you down, but instead focus on the positive. Give your attention to the fans that most deserve it and leave the others alone with their fantasies.
I hope this helps.
Brian
I see nothing wrong w/you being yourself when you reply. In fact, I prefer it. It is sad that some people interpret young ladies like you and others as sex craved, party like, wildchilds. Granted there are probably some that are, but most arent like that at all. You are people w/feelings and deserve to be treated w/dignity and respect. For the ones that send you the vulgar msgs, just delete their msgs and send one final warning msg to them “next time you send such msg to me, you’ll be blocked, deleted, reported w/out hesitation”. Those people dont deserve your time of day and need to crawl back in their utopian holes. To me, I always enjoy reading your blogs and msgs on your yahoo group, it shows you care about your fans. I still love ya bunches.
See how many sincere fans you have here!
You should just pick a “Charley Chase” image that works best for you…if that’s the real you and your fans like it go for it…its your choice but most girls put on the sexy kitten act to get more fans. like most them save the real self for their man and real friends.
first off i just want 2 introduce myself, hi my name is donald. i just got finished reading ur “2 b or not 2 b” thing, and wat i jus want 2 say is that do what u do. if i sound at all mean im srry. i also read some of ur fans comments 2, and they may seem as if they r on ur side by telling u what u want 2 hear. now i maybe a lil late with this comment, 2 b honest i found this website by mistake, dont get me wrong i do know who u r, but anyway what u really need 2 hear is that whatever makes u feel rite. if all u want 2 do is just hav casuel conversation with ur fans and they’re being volgar u hav get serious and tell them 2 stop or you’ll block them besides half the guys who say they’ll do all types of freaky stuff to u if they had the chance, but if u meet them in person they’ll probably spray there shorts and just run home (excuse me 4 my language) but if u do like it when they talk dirty 2 u (most likely u probably dont seeing as how u wrote a blog about it) then well idk giv the fans what they want i guess, but anyway sorry if i wrote so much once again im donald boone and ima guy if u couldn’t tell, its not that i think ur an idiot or any thing its jus that most girls i talk 2 online think ima girl or either gay, which im am not, but anyway if u hav anything to say or ask me, u hav my e-mail.
Hey Charley,
Thanks for writing this. It must be an interesting line to ride, I wish you lots respect and love. Thanks for sharing your passion.
Ananda
Ignore those who cant seperate fantasy from reality and be yourself. Mad love from one of your biggest fans.
and mad love right back to you Dillon. kiss kiss babe
Hi Charley,
My name is Billy. Did you have a good Christmas.
Mine was good. I have been a fan of yours for a while.
I am sorry some guys can bee assholes.
I worked or helped rater at a strip club years back. I always got along with the girls and treated them with respect. Sometimes they didnt return the favor, but it was their problem not mine.
Just wanted to say hell to you beautiful sweet lady.
Take care and have a good day and the rest of the holidays. Do you ever come to Atlanta Georgia?
Billy
I am 52.
Hi Charley,
My name is Billy. Did you have a good Christmas.
Mine was good. I have been a fan of yours for a while.
I am sorry some guys can bee assholes.
I worked or helped rater at a strip club years back. I always got along with the girls and treated them with respect. Sometimes they didnt return the favor, but it was their problem not mine.
Just wanted to say hello to you beautiful sweet lady.
Take care and have a good day and the rest of the holidays. Do you ever come to Atlanta Georgia?
Billy
I am 52.
Thank you fro writing in to me. I am not scheduled to be in atlanta any time soon. I will keep you posted if I am tho! kiss kiss my friend.
I think that people that follow you realize that you are a very good person that enjoys her family and friends.You have wild side to you which makes you more appealing but not open you to those kind of comments. All I can say is continue being yourself and sharing thing with us and you will have many more good comments than bad.
Thanks babe. u rock
Hello, Charley. I am from Brazil and I love your performance in the porn movies. I would like to know if you are scort too. Thanks.
*Carlos I don’t know what that word means, so I guess not
sry